Having worked across three continents and in various sectors, I have come to realise the importance of healthy relationships. I am motivated by connection and seeing people flourish, whatever their circumstances.  

I have spent decades helping people to recognise their skills, building confidence to deliver their goals and achieve results. My diverse career has taken me to the charity sector with Compass International Family Center and Oasis Children’s Home, and to corporate settings such as Ford Motor Company and Fluid Interactive. I frequently speak at events and conferences, bringing messages of hope and transformation.  

I am a qualified integrative counsellor and psychotherapist, with two degrees – a BA in psychology and international relations, and a BCom in management and human resources. I also have qualifications in project management, training, and facilitation.  

I’ve been married for 20 years and have four children. We’ve been fortunate to live overseas, experiencing the richness of many cultures, making connections across the world. I’ve enjoyed leading and building teams that help those in need.  

My professional experiences have shown me how to turn around “impossible” situations. I once had a client who was in a very difficult emotional state and rejected my support altogether. She refused to engage with me as her counsellor, ignoring my calls and even going on the attack.  

I gave her time, worked from the space she was in, and eventually found a way through. By working relationally to address this rupture in our relationship, we were able to move forward. We worked together for over a year, and she experienced real transformation, understanding herself better and becoming more resilient in her own relationships.  

Challenging experiences shape people. The difference we can make when we engage with each other – staying authentic to ourselves, giving dignity to others, and finding shared values – brings lasting change. I am excited to share everything I learned in my own journey through the Relational capability training programme, which has an incredible impact on the way we look at all relationships.
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Charmari Downing